DO I HAVE A CHOICE?
....... Do we really have any choice
in life, or is this just an illusion that life deals us?
Yesterday morning, I was having a cup of coffee with a friend when he
asked me, "Do you believe that we really have a choice in
Without even thinking, I answered him, but of course we do.
"I believe that in life all is predestined," my friend
said almost sadly.
I felt like he shattered all my illusions and left me wondering if my
thoughts were correct. "I do have choices," I
protested. " I decide what to do with my life," I told
him. " I decide if I want to be healthy and choose my foods
and exercise. Or I just want to vegetate. I decide if I want to go to
work or stay home. I decide if I want to have friends or be home alone.
I decide how long I will live, by how I take care of my body."
"I hate to disillusion you, Irene, but I believe it is already
predestined how long you are going to live. And you only act in
accordance with that plan."
"It doesn't seem right, that we worry and fret and get so involved
in decision making, only to find out that it was already decided for us
what will occur or what the outcome will be, before we even get
I protested angrily.
"We need the illusion in order to push forward." my
friend said " We need to develop our soul with
experience which were chosen for us. By thinking we have a choice, we
develop our character and fulfil our necessary tasks here on
this earthy plane."
"So then you do agree with me," I smiled. "We do
have a choice whether we think we do or don't know we do."
"It only appears that we do, " my friend said. "You
see, we are the sum of our experiences, and we can only respond
from that place which we know. If we were loved as children, we
have learned how to love. We have learned to love ourselves, and
as a result we know how to love others. But on the other hand, had
we been abused as children, we will surely grow up abusing others.
So you see, our choices are very limited." He said.
"That is true," I agreed with him for the first
time, "We are the total sum of our experiences.
But I feel that when God created us, He gave us free will, and we
have the choice of exercising that free will. You see, I
don't believe that we are victims of our past. I feel that we do
have a choice of leaving the past, forgiving our parents, our children
or our friends, and even the Holocaust. That does not mean
forgetting, but forgiving, so that we can go on with our lives. As
long as we hold that anger, and blame others for our present, we
will be stuck in the victims' mode, and we become
emotionally paralyzed and pay the price physically. But I believe
by taking back our power, we can choose the right fork in the
road. We can respond from a God place, love, or we can come
from anger." I let out a deep breath with that mouthful.
That is very true, my friend said with a grin. But whatever you
decide to do was already programmed in the book of life."
We both burst our laughing, gave each other a hug and agreed to
So right here and right now, I choose to send you all my love and
If you have an opinion on the subject, please E mail me and let me know
what you think. THE CHOICE IS YOURS!
Rev. Irene Danon Bukica@aol.com
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